Responsibility of speech
Responsibility of speech
Freedom of speech.
That’s the topic I want to explore today. In the small village where I live, several WhatsApp community groups were initially created to keep everyone connected and informed. Over the past year, however, I’ve noticed a frustrating trend. Some individuals have been vocal about their opinions, often expressing them in ways I find downright rude and disrespectful, then justifying their comments with the #freedomofspeech label.
These comments often spark lengthy threads with no resolution. Instead of addressing a specific problem, debates ensue, with everyone striving to have their voices heard and perspectives acknowledged. It’s exhausting and significantly damages interpersonal trust.
This issue isn’t limited to online groups. In my coaching sessions, I’ve noticed a similar trend: individuals and groups feel upset, disengaged, or hurt because of a single perspective. Effective communication teaches us that those who remain flexible in their thinking and view situations from others’ perspectives build stronger connections, foster trust, and ultimately succeed.
Fundamentally, we all have a deep desire to be heard and seen.
But are we able to allow that for others?
What does it mean to view things from another angle? Quite simply, it means putting yourself in someone else’s shoes. Consider their background, get to know their interests and concerns by listening with empathy, acknowledge that two people can derive different meanings from the same experience, and keep the bigger picture in mind.
Two things come to mind in these situations:
- I have a personal rule not to get involved in online spats or office politics of any kind. I heard someone say once that it is the equivalent of drinking sewage water. That stuck! If you feel the need to say something, ask yourself whether you would say it to the person’s face. If yes, then say it to them directly.
- Another saying that I came across recently that stuck with me is: There is a reason we have two ears and one mouth – we should listen more than we speak. I like that too.
To get along with others, work better as a team, or build healthier relationships, we must take time to understand others’ perspectives and motives, even if they differ from our own. Give others the benefit of the doubt and listen more than you speak.
And if the WhatsApp group bothers you that much, just leave.
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